I think your hitting on an important point, but I also think you are mixing toughness with a lack of emotional maturity, but then you go on to advocate for strength AND love. I think to teach a kid not whine about a scratch on their elbow is okay, but to tell the kid to stop crying when they have a compound fracture is a bit extreme. The world isn’t safe, and so I believe that teaching children to be aware of that and to be resolute enough to endure that reality is important, however, it’s also going too far to tell a kid never to feel anything. One thing that concerns me about a lot of social justice people these days is they, ironically, seem to be forcing emotions into the closet for many, and so kids aren’t just getting the “tough love” but they are also getting the “free love or die” end of it also. It’s hard to argue against the case for love, and that you land there in the article I think is pretty perfect.